Okay, no one actually gave the settings that could have saved me days so I will post what I used to save someone else time and frustration.
while using a .1 mm 30 degree V bit, I used:
Isolation Minimum 1.35 mils
(not used) Maximum 6 mils
(not used) Step 1.5 mils
Z Down -4 mils
I used Z Probe for every etching.