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Request for a prayer for my wellbeing and wishing me to change for better. Metta.Please
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szmicio
Dear Dhamma friends,
I am still don't know what I am doing/. I am on edge. Please pray for me, do metta or extend metta toward me/ That is what I can ask. It will be protection towards me. Thank you so much. Don't leave me alone, please. Best wishes Lukasz |
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Jonothan Abbott
Hi Lukasz
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On Sun, Sep 20, 2020 at 05:42 AM, szmicio wrote: Dear Dhamma friends, I was just wondering how you were getting on, and now this message of yours pops up! We would all like to see you get through your difficulties, and you have our very best wishes. However, it will take time and effort on your part, so don't expect any miracles! You are fortunate in being an intelligent person who has a strong interest in the Dhamma. As long as you see the danger in the unwholesome tendencies that have been accumulated (over many lifetimes, no doubt) there can be progress. Just be thankful for small steps and do not have unrealistic expectations! Best wishes (and keep talking) Jon |
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szmicio
Hi Jon,
I am generally having so many problems and clashes in life with putthujanas, and that makes me weaker and weaker, I feel like that. I don't know sometimes how to manage difficulties in life. Though I am not judgeful, and for sure I am not trying to be rude.I just don't know how to sort out this kinds of clashes with people in daily life. Jon: However, it will take time and effort on your part, so don't expect any miracles! Lukas: Of course I understand, I am not seeking a cure, but I am week now, and I belive no clear and intellectual mind can help solve it either I am going to detox, residential or inpatient but it takes time from couple weeks to months I am asking just ti seek a temprary remedy, for now. untill i recover Best wishes Lukas |
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Jonothan Abbott
Hi Lukas
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On Sun, Sep 20, 2020 at 07:26 AM, szmicio wrote: Hi Jon, Yes, it's tough. And it will be tough for a while yet. Keep in mind the value of kusala, any kusala at all no matter how weak or how short in duration. In the long term it's one's kusala that is the best protection and remedy. (Your present predicament is not the fault of those other people.) We are all thinking of you and wishing you the best. Jon |
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Huong To
Hi Lukas, Jon
Jon’s advice is a excellent ideas Best wishes and keep talking Dhamma H |
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Tam thanh Chan
Hi Lukas My thought is always with you. Wishing you getting better physically and mentally. And I think you can DO it well !!! Tam Thanh Dear Dhamma friends, |
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Sarah Procter Abbott
Lukas
L: I am still don't know what I am doing/. I am on edge. Please pray for me, do metta or extend metta toward me/ That is what I can ask. It will be protection towards me. Thank you so much. Don't leave me alone, please.S: Glad to hear from you. Whatever "edginess" or nervousness or disturbance there is, it'll pass. Nothing lasts at all. We all wish you well and send mettā. The very best protection of all is a moment of right understanding now, no matter what the object is. It may be seeing now or edginess or annoyance or any other conditioned reality. All gone! Life just exist in a moment. All the past dramas have gone completely never to return. The understanding has to begin again and again. Sarah |
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Phil Coristine
Hi Lukas Ok, I will pray metta for you. Maybe it is not correct Dhamma but maybe it works. Worth a try. I will believe it with all my might when I do it. In the meantime I will continue feeling confident that you are going to be ok because you have a keen interest in Dhamma and you have strong tendencies to hiri and otappa. Hope you get a good detox place. There are many many many stories of people getting free from alcohol. God, I can think of around 10 people I know personally! I also know one who died (my cousin and best friend) so there is always that possibility too. It is not light thing. Phil |
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tam bach
Dear Lukas, You have my best wishes. And I am sure many other friends are also readily extending their metta to you, wishing you well... As Jon and Sarah have said, the best protection you might have is any understanding and kusala now,. Grow your confidence from there, with patience, knoưing that it will be a long process. Everything, good or bad, comes and go no exception. Metta, Tam B Dear Dhamma friends, |
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nina
Dear Lukas,
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Thinking with metta of you, just as I think of Jeff’s inmates! All people are dear to me. Best wishes, Nina.
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szmicio
Dear Dhamma friends,
Let me say some of my thoughts before I catch up with your posts from a few days. I realised that I really appreciate Ajahn Sujin teachings. No matter if I am sometimes angry or whatever, but I really appreciate Ajahn Suji teachings and her continuous effort to explain to us and deliver, the sacca teachings, to be truthful or honest with others and also ourselves most of all. I appreciate so much this reminders of honesty. No point to be angry. I think it's really good, to be honest in life with others but foremost and most precious, to be honest with ourselves. I am sober from a couple of days. Thanks Lukas |
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Phil Coristine
Hi Lukas I am sober from a couple of days. ph: glad to hear it. I believe one day you will be free from this addiction. Understanding will liberate you I hope it is in this lifetime I think it will be Phil |
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On Thu, Sep 24, 2020 at 04:03 AM, Phil Coristine wrote:
Hi LukasLukas, I agree with Phil on all points. One day you will be free from this addiction. Although I was never an 'addict', I was a regular imbiber of alcoholic beverages since my mid teens. Once I took up the Buddhadhamma, within six months I was no longer drinking alcohol other then on rare social occasions. -Jeff |
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Sarah Procter Abbott
Lukas
L: I appreciate so much this reminders of honesty. No point to be angry. I think it's really good, to be honest in life with others but foremost and most precious, to be honest with ourselves.S: So true. Most precious of all is to be honest with understanding of what appears now. Sarah |
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Phil Coristine
Hi Sarah, Lukas, all S: Most precious of all is to be honest with understanding of what appears now. Ph: Can I ask you when you have a moment what "appears now" means according to your understanding of the ancient text? Is "appears now" sati in its various levels? For "me" (cittas performing functions) there is just thinking (no matter how very instantaneous and fleeting it is thinking) about realities, concepts of concepts. Do they "appear now" If not, does that mean nothing "appears now" or do things "appear now" without my knowing it, in a subconscious way. Thanks Phil p.s I see there is a post you have answered, thank you. The one on hiri I think. I will get to that on another day. pps. Hope all is well Lukas. I continue to think of you and feel confident about your future because of your intelligence and healthy tendency to hiri otappa. |
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nina
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Appear now is a good subject for discussion. So often used. Good to consider. Nina.
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Phil Coristine
Hi Nina N: Appear now is a good subject for discussion. So often used. Good to consider. ph: Yes, I remember your saying once in a discussion that you think we should be very specific or exact when discussing dhammas. And I agreed. It might have been in a context in which Ajahn was (as she sometimes does) pushing back a little against a question asking for details. There is an idea on her part at such times that the person who is asking for details is doing it for the self or something, but as far as I see it it is the opposite. If we know how remarkably in detail the Buddha and the Great Ones saw into realities, knowing about those details can help us better appreciate that there is no self in control, just dhammas performing functions. Thank you. On Sat, Oct 3, 2020 at 8:48 PM nina <vangorko@...> wrote:
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nina
Dear Phil,
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Just dhammas performing thir functions, I agree. I want to consider a little more about appearing and will get back later. Good if you have input. Nina.
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Sarah Procter Abbott
Phil
S: Here it is referring to the reality which is experienced, (or rather the nimitta of the reality experienced). For example, sound is experienced, but is it the object of ignorance and attachment as usual or is there any understanding of it as just that dhamma, just that which is heard? S: Realities are experienced, such as sound, but usually without any knowing as you say. The sound doesn't "appear", isn't known, as sound. Sometimes it depends on the context as to whether it is just referring to experienced or experienced with paññā and sati. Sarah |
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Azita Gill
Hallo Phil, Nina,
ph: Yes, I remember your saying once in a discussion that you think we should be very specific or exact when discussing dhammas. And I agreed. It might have been in a context in which Ajahn was (as she sometimes does) pushing back a little against a question asking for details. There is an idea on her part at such times that the person who is asking for details is doing it for the self or something, but as far as I see it it is the opposite. If we know how remarkably in detail the Buddha and the Great Ones saw into realities, knowing about those details can help us better appreciate that there is no self in control, just dhammas performing functions. Az: I suggest that Ajahn is reminding us again and again and again of the present moment - that which arises and then passes away. We can ask, read, discuss with our Dhamma friends about the intricate details of Buddha's amazing teachings, of the Truth of now. But do 'we' know now? I also think that there is probably no-one anywhere in this world who will continue to remind us of the realities of now.. we are all so tied up with our stories of this and that, mostly with lobha. I too, am keen to be a better person but that's probably based on Mana etc. The "me' is just cittas, cetasikas and rupas, all extremely impermanent and totally beyond control. But do we really understand that with right understanding? Generally not. Currently I'm a train wreck, trying to sell my house and land and dealing with all that is stressful. Try telling 'myself' it's all just a concept blah, blah, so the sensible thing would be to just be aware of the presently arising reality - HA! Who can do that just because it might take the unpleasant feelings away? Good to see you continuing to write here Phil, despite you often saying its not for you - or similar - I don't want to misquote you :)) Live for understanding, Azita |
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