My wife makes it possible for me to do this


 

A little more than 3 weeks ago I had no idea my life was about to be turned
on its head.
Marian's hip replacement operation went extremely well as far as the medical
staff was concerned.
She was offered numerous pain medications in advance which was reassuring.
Unfortunately one by one we discovered she had adverse reactions to each of
them. There many sleepless nights spend in endless pain followed by
irrational emotional ups and downs during the days. I spent the next 3 weeks
doing everything she used to do around the house in addition to taking care
of her every need 24 / 7. Each day ended with my being exhausted and falling
into bed for a few hours before repeating the same thing again.

My aha moment came when, after 5 days of total exhaustion (me, not her), she
screamed at me
"Now do you see how much I do around here so you can sit in your room on the
computer all day long?"
"It would be nice if you said thank you once in a while when I got home from
work!"

I thought better of opening my mouth at that moment to tell her all the
things I was doing:
All the cooking for both of us including food shopping; vacuuming, laundry,
dishes; feeding the dogs (they eat almost 50lbs of raw dog food each month)
twice a day, walking them 6 times per day; helping her in and out of bed,
sitting, standing, walking:, taking her almost daily to and from
appointments with physical and occupational therapists, pain management
specialists, doctors, etc; helping her with her rehabilitation and her
exercises; buying medical necessities like canes, walkers, stools, shower
seats (since she can't stand long), back pillows, ice packs, prescriptions,
etc; going into work remotely, and eventually in person, since so many
people depend on her.

The truth is undeniable: Marian makes it possible for me to be the moderator
of TekScopes, something I love to do.

3 days ago (and exactly 3 weeks after her surgery) she turned the corner.
She was sleeping through the night without pain, walking with only a cane,
eating the usual things, and going to work. For the next 6 weeks I will
still have to drive her everywhere. By now I have no problem feeding and
walking our five Golden Retrievers. They are still more than a little upset
they haven't been able to snuggle with her in bed. Long ago we bought a
California king bed so 300+ pounds of dogs could all fit in the bed at the
same time. She hinted today that she may let one of them sleep in bed with
her tomorrow night. Knowing her, a day later she will feel sorry for the
other four and let all five join her.

Dennis Tillman W7pF


Sean Turner
 

Good to hear she's on the mend, Dennis. Take care of her and take care of yourself too!

Sean


Paul Amaranth
 

Fantastic news Dennis, great to hear it.

Major surgery is always difficult and anything that results
in significant trauma takes time to recover. Really glad
to hear Marian is on the upswing.

Paul
--
Paul Amaranth, GCIH | Manchester MI, USA
Aurora Group of Michigan, LLC | Security, Systems & Software
paul@AuroraGrp.Com | Unix/Linux - We don't do windows


Harvey White
 

Glad that things have turned for the better.

Harvey

On 4/3/2021 10:15 PM, Dennis Tillman W7pF wrote:
A little more than 3 weeks ago I had no idea my life was about to be turned
on its head.
Marian's hip replacement operation went extremely well as far as the medical
staff was concerned.
She was offered numerous pain medications in advance which was reassuring.
Unfortunately one by one we discovered she had adverse reactions to each of
them. There many sleepless nights spend in endless pain followed by
irrational emotional ups and downs during the days. I spent the next 3 weeks
doing everything she used to do around the house in addition to taking care
of her every need 24 / 7. Each day ended with my being exhausted and falling
into bed for a few hours before repeating the same thing again.

My aha moment came when, after 5 days of total exhaustion (me, not her), she
screamed at me
"Now do you see how much I do around here so you can sit in your room on the
computer all day long?"
"It would be nice if you said thank you once in a while when I got home from
work!"

I thought better of opening my mouth at that moment to tell her all the
things I was doing:
All the cooking for both of us including food shopping; vacuuming, laundry,
dishes; feeding the dogs (they eat almost 50lbs of raw dog food each month)
twice a day, walking them 6 times per day; helping her in and out of bed,
sitting, standing, walking:, taking her almost daily to and from
appointments with physical and occupational therapists, pain management
specialists, doctors, etc; helping her with her rehabilitation and her
exercises; buying medical necessities like canes, walkers, stools, shower
seats (since she can't stand long), back pillows, ice packs, prescriptions,
etc; going into work remotely, and eventually in person, since so many
people depend on her.

The truth is undeniable: Marian makes it possible for me to be the moderator
of TekScopes, something I love to do.

3 days ago (and exactly 3 weeks after her surgery) she turned the corner.
She was sleeping through the night without pain, walking with only a cane,
eating the usual things, and going to work. For the next 6 weeks I will
still have to drive her everywhere. By now I have no problem feeding and
walking our five Golden Retrievers. They are still more than a little upset
they haven't been able to snuggle with her in bed. Long ago we bought a
California king bed so 300+ pounds of dogs could all fit in the bed at the
same time. She hinted today that she may let one of them sleep in bed with
her tomorrow night. Knowing her, a day later she will feel sorry for the
other four and let all five join her.

Dennis Tillman W7pF





Gary Robert Bosworth
 

Interesting and a good read. Thanx for posting.

On Sat, Apr 3, 2021, 19:47 Harvey White <madyn@dragonworks.info> wrote:

Glad that things have turned for the better.

Harvey


On 4/3/2021 10:15 PM, Dennis Tillman W7pF wrote:
A little more than 3 weeks ago I had no idea my life was about to be
turned
on its head.
Marian's hip replacement operation went extremely well as far as the
medical
staff was concerned.
She was offered numerous pain medications in advance which was
reassuring.
Unfortunately one by one we discovered she had adverse reactions to each
of
them. There many sleepless nights spend in endless pain followed by
irrational emotional ups and downs during the days. I spent the next 3
weeks
doing everything she used to do around the house in addition to taking
care
of her every need 24 / 7. Each day ended with my being exhausted and
falling
into bed for a few hours before repeating the same thing again.

My aha moment came when, after 5 days of total exhaustion (me, not her),
she
screamed at me
"Now do you see how much I do around here so you can sit in your room on
the
computer all day long?"
"It would be nice if you said thank you once in a while when I got home
from
work!"

I thought better of opening my mouth at that moment to tell her all the
things I was doing:
All the cooking for both of us including food shopping; vacuuming,
laundry,
dishes; feeding the dogs (they eat almost 50lbs of raw dog food each
month)
twice a day, walking them 6 times per day; helping her in and out of bed,
sitting, standing, walking:, taking her almost daily to and from
appointments with physical and occupational therapists, pain management
specialists, doctors, etc; helping her with her rehabilitation and her
exercises; buying medical necessities like canes, walkers, stools, shower
seats (since she can't stand long), back pillows, ice packs,
prescriptions,
etc; going into work remotely, and eventually in person, since so many
people depend on her.

The truth is undeniable: Marian makes it possible for me to be the
moderator
of TekScopes, something I love to do.

3 days ago (and exactly 3 weeks after her surgery) she turned the corner.
She was sleeping through the night without pain, walking with only a
cane,
eating the usual things, and going to work. For the next 6 weeks I will
still have to drive her everywhere. By now I have no problem feeding and
walking our five Golden Retrievers. They are still more than a little
upset
they haven't been able to snuggle with her in bed. Long ago we bought a
California king bed so 300+ pounds of dogs could all fit in the bed at
the
same time. She hinted today that she may let one of them sleep in bed
with
her tomorrow night. Knowing her, a day later she will feel sorry for the
other four and let all five join her.

Dennis Tillman W7pF










Mark Vincent
 

Dennis.

I am happy to hear both of you are doing alright. I hope she got the card I sent a couple of weeks ago.

Mark


stevenhorii
 

Dennis,

Very glad to hear that Marian is improving. Getting past the post-op pain
is a major milestone as I am sure you have figured out.

Steve Horii

On Sat, Apr 3, 2021 at 10:16 PM Dennis Tillman W7pF <dennis@ridesoft.com>
wrote:

A little more than 3 weeks ago I had no idea my life was about to be turned
on its head.
Marian's hip replacement operation went extremely well as far as the
medical
staff was concerned.
She was offered numerous pain medications in advance which was reassuring.
Unfortunately one by one we discovered she had adverse reactions to each of
them. There many sleepless nights spend in endless pain followed by
irrational emotional ups and downs during the days. I spent the next 3
weeks
doing everything she used to do around the house in addition to taking care
of her every need 24 / 7. Each day ended with my being exhausted and
falling
into bed for a few hours before repeating the same thing again.

My aha moment came when, after 5 days of total exhaustion (me, not her),
she
screamed at me
"Now do you see how much I do around here so you can sit in your room on
the
computer all day long?"
"It would be nice if you said thank you once in a while when I got home
from
work!"

I thought better of opening my mouth at that moment to tell her all the
things I was doing:
All the cooking for both of us including food shopping; vacuuming, laundry,
dishes; feeding the dogs (they eat almost 50lbs of raw dog food each month)
twice a day, walking them 6 times per day; helping her in and out of bed,
sitting, standing, walking:, taking her almost daily to and from
appointments with physical and occupational therapists, pain management
specialists, doctors, etc; helping her with her rehabilitation and her
exercises; buying medical necessities like canes, walkers, stools, shower
seats (since she can't stand long), back pillows, ice packs, prescriptions,
etc; going into work remotely, and eventually in person, since so many
people depend on her.

The truth is undeniable: Marian makes it possible for me to be the
moderator
of TekScopes, something I love to do.

3 days ago (and exactly 3 weeks after her surgery) she turned the corner.
She was sleeping through the night without pain, walking with only a cane,
eating the usual things, and going to work. For the next 6 weeks I will
still have to drive her everywhere. By now I have no problem feeding and
walking our five Golden Retrievers. They are still more than a little upset
they haven't been able to snuggle with her in bed. Long ago we bought a
California king bed so 300+ pounds of dogs could all fit in the bed at the
same time. She hinted today that she may let one of them sleep in bed with
her tomorrow night. Knowing her, a day later she will feel sorry for the
other four and let all five join her.

Dennis Tillman W7pF






Renée
 

Dennis-
Wonderful news! you are doing a herculean job, and an angel for doing so.. may she continue to improve. do one thing remember to take care of yourself...you are no good to either of you if you do not....the dogs are counting on you too!:-)
may the healing continue!
Happy Easter!
Renée

On 4/3/21 7:15 PM, Dennis Tillman W7pF wrote:
A little more than 3 weeks ago I had no idea my life was about to be turned
on its head.
Marian's hip replacement operation went extremely well as far as the medical
staff was concerned.
She was offered numerous pain medications in advance which was reassuring.
Unfortunately one by one we discovered she had adverse reactions to each of
them. There many sleepless nights spend in endless pain followed by
irrational emotional ups and downs during the days. I spent the next 3 weeks
doing everything she used to do around the house in addition to taking care
of her every need 24 / 7. Each day ended with my being exhausted and falling
into bed for a few hours before repeating the same thing again.

My aha moment came when, after 5 days of total exhaustion (me, not her), she
screamed at me
"Now do you see how much I do around here so you can sit in your room on the
computer all day long?"
"It would be nice if you said thank you once in a while when I got home from
work!"

I thought better of opening my mouth at that moment to tell her all the
things I was doing:
All the cooking for both of us including food shopping; vacuuming, laundry,
dishes; feeding the dogs (they eat almost 50lbs of raw dog food each month)
twice a day, walking them 6 times per day; helping her in and out of bed,
sitting, standing, walking:, taking her almost daily to and from
appointments with physical and occupational therapists, pain management
specialists, doctors, etc; helping her with her rehabilitation and her
exercises; buying medical necessities like canes, walkers, stools, shower
seats (since she can't stand long), back pillows, ice packs, prescriptions,
etc; going into work remotely, and eventually in person, since so many
people depend on her.

The truth is undeniable: Marian makes it possible for me to be the moderator
of TekScopes, something I love to do.

3 days ago (and exactly 3 weeks after her surgery) she turned the corner.
She was sleeping through the night without pain, walking with only a cane,
eating the usual things, and going to work. For the next 6 weeks I will
still have to drive her everywhere. By now I have no problem feeding and
walking our five Golden Retrievers. They are still more than a little upset
they haven't been able to snuggle with her in bed. Long ago we bought a
California king bed so 300+ pounds of dogs could all fit in the bed at the
same time. She hinted today that she may let one of them sleep in bed with
her tomorrow night. Knowing her, a day later she will feel sorry for the
other four and let all five join her.

Dennis Tillman W7pF




+1 925-334-8641
 

Glad to hear the good news. Take care of yourselves.
Kind regards.


Byron Hayes, Jr.
 

Dennis,

My best wishes to you and Marian. I had a hip replacement operation a few years ago and I can sympathize. My thanks to you for all you do for us, and to her for enabling you to do it.

Byron Hayes, Jr., WA6ATN
Toluca Lake, CA

At 07:15 PM 4/3/2021, Dennis Tillman W7pF wrote:
A little more than 3 weeks ago I had no idea my life was about to be turned
on its head.
Marian's hip replacement operation went extremely well as far as the medical
staff was concerned.
She was offered numerous pain medications in advance which was reassuring.
Unfortunately one by one we discovered she had adverse reactions to each of
them. There many sleepless nights spend in endless pain followed by
irrational emotional ups and downs during the days. I spent the next 3 weeks
doing everything she used to do around the house in addition to taking care
of her every need 24 / 7. Each day ended with my being exhausted and falling
into bed for a few hours before repeating the same thing again.

My aha moment came when, after 5 days of total exhaustion (me, not her), she
screamed at me
"Now do you see how much I do around here so you can sit in your room on the
computer all day long?"
"It would be nice if you said thank you once in a while when I got home from
work!"

I thought better of opening my mouth at that moment to tell her all the
things I was doing:
All the cooking for both of us including food shopping; vacuuming, laundry,
dishes; feeding the dogs (they eat almost 50lbs of raw dog food each month)
twice a day, walking them 6 times per day; helping her in and out of bed,
sitting, standing, walking:, taking her almost daily to and from
appointments with physical and occupational therapists, pain management
specialists, doctors, etc; helping her with her rehabilitation and her
exercises; buying medical necessities like canes, walkers, stools, shower
seats (since she can't stand long), back pillows, ice packs, prescriptions,
etc; going into work remotely, and eventually in person, since so many
people depend on her.

The truth is undeniable: Marian makes it possible for me to be the moderator
of TekScopes, something I love to do.

3 days ago (and exactly 3 weeks after her surgery) she turned the corner.
She was sleeping through the night without pain, walking with only a cane,
eating the usual things, and going to work. For the next 6 weeks I will
still have to drive her everywhere. By now I have no problem feeding and
walking our five Golden Retrievers. They are still more than a little upset
they haven't been able to snuggle with her in bed. Long ago we bought a
California king bed so 300+ pounds of dogs could all fit in the bed at the
same time. She hinted today that she may let one of them sleep in bed with
her tomorrow night. Knowing her, a day later she will feel sorry for the
other four and let all five join her.

Dennis Tillman W7pF



 

Dennis,

So good to hear that your wife is on the mend. We are all in her debt.

-- Jeff Dutky


Dave Seiter
 

I'm glad your wife is doing well! 
Dogs are great, but I can't imagine being able to sleep with 5 Golden!  We have ONE Lab, and he makes it very hard to sleep, but other than the lack of sleep, I wouldn't have it any other way.
-Dave

On Saturday, April 3, 2021, 07:16:17 PM PDT, Dennis Tillman W7pF <dennis@ridesoft.com> wrote:

A little more than 3 weeks ago I had no idea my life was about to be turned
on its head.
Marian's hip replacement operation went extremely well as far as the medical
staff was concerned.
She was offered numerous pain medications in advance which was reassuring.
Unfortunately one by one we discovered she had adverse reactions to each of
them. There many sleepless nights spend in endless pain followed by
irrational emotional ups and downs during the days. I spent the next 3 weeks
doing everything she used to do around the house in addition to taking care
of her every need 24 / 7. Each day ended with my being exhausted and falling
into bed for a few hours before repeating the same thing again.

My aha moment came when, after 5 days of total exhaustion (me, not her), she
screamed at me
"Now do you see how much I do around here so you can sit in your room on the
computer all day long?"
"It would be nice if you said thank you once in a while when I got home from
work!"

I thought better of opening my mouth at that moment to tell her all the
things I was doing:
All the cooking for both of us including food shopping; vacuuming, laundry,
dishes; feeding the dogs (they eat almost 50lbs of raw dog food each month)
twice a day, walking them 6 times per day; helping her in and out of bed,
sitting, standing, walking:, taking her almost daily to and from
appointments with physical and occupational therapists, pain management
specialists, doctors, etc; helping her with her rehabilitation and her
exercises; buying medical necessities like canes, walkers, stools, shower
seats (since she can't stand long), back pillows, ice packs, prescriptions,
etc; going into work remotely, and eventually in person,  since so many
people depend on her.

The truth is undeniable: Marian makes it possible for me to be the moderator
of TekScopes, something I love to do.

3 days ago (and exactly 3 weeks after her surgery) she turned the corner.
She was sleeping through the night without pain, walking with only a cane,
eating the usual things, and going to work. For the next 6 weeks I will
still have to drive her everywhere. By now I have no problem feeding and
walking our five Golden Retrievers. They are still more than a little upset
they haven't been able to snuggle with her in bed. Long ago we bought a
California king bed so 300+ pounds of dogs could all fit in the bed at the
same time. She hinted today that she may let one of them sleep in bed with
her tomorrow night.  Knowing her, a day later she will feel sorry for the
other four and let all five join her.

Dennis Tillman W7pF


 

Hi Mark,
Your card arrived right at the perfect time.
Thank you, Dennis

-----Original Message-----
From: TekScopes@groups.io [mailto:TekScopes@groups.io] On Behalf Of Mark Vincent
Sent: Saturday, April 03, 2021 8:19 PM
To: TekScopes@groups.io
Subject: Re: [TekScopes] My wife makes it possible for me to do this

Dennis.

I am happy to hear both of you are doing alright. I hope she got the card I sent a couple of weeks ago.

Mark







--
Dennis Tillman W7pF
TekScopes Moderator


Joe
 

Dennis,

glad to read this. Now things will get better day by day. All the best wishes to both of you!
Tell your dogs they must be nice: One of my former co-workers once got bitten in his toe by his sleeping (and dreaming!) shepherd at midnight!

Kindest Regards, Joe


magnustoelle
 

Good Day Dennis,




it is great to hear from you and I was glad to read about your wife Marian‘s recovery.
May you enjoy your Easter holidays.
Thank you for doing what you are doing for this group!
All the best for you and your family.
Kind greetings from Upper Bavaria,
Magnus


Roger M
 

Thank you for sharing! All the best...
-Roger


Phillip Potter
 

Hi Dennis,
Glad to hear that she is on the mend.
After 42 years of marriage, I can say this...
My wife and I have taken to "thanking" each other for the things that the other does for us; like cooking, etc.
I have taken on cleaning up if she cooks and visa versa.
I am the sys op, driver, and geek. I take care of my own laundry, make the bed almost every day, and clean up after myself, while she takes care of the dog run (you know...).
It's a shared life where I look for ways to pitch in without being asked and we are still happily married.
Phil

On 4/3/2021 7:15 PM, Dennis Tillman W7pF wrote:
A little more than 3 weeks ago I had no idea my life was about to be turned
on its head.
Marian's hip replacement operation went extremely well as far as the medical
staff was concerned.
She was offered numerous pain medications in advance which was reassuring.
Unfortunately one by one we discovered she had adverse reactions to each of
them. There many sleepless nights spend in endless pain followed by
irrational emotional ups and downs during the days. I spent the next 3 weeks
doing everything she used to do around the house in addition to taking care
of her every need 24 / 7. Each day ended with my being exhausted and falling
into bed for a few hours before repeating the same thing again.

My aha moment came when, after 5 days of total exhaustion (me, not her), she
screamed at me
"Now do you see how much I do around here so you can sit in your room on the
computer all day long?"
"It would be nice if you said thank you once in a while when I got home from
work!"

I thought better of opening my mouth at that moment to tell her all the
things I was doing:
All the cooking for both of us including food shopping; vacuuming, laundry,
dishes; feeding the dogs (they eat almost 50lbs of raw dog food each month)
twice a day, walking them 6 times per day; helping her in and out of bed,
sitting, standing, walking:, taking her almost daily to and from
appointments with physical and occupational therapists, pain management
specialists, doctors, etc; helping her with her rehabilitation and her
exercises; buying medical necessities like canes, walkers, stools, shower
seats (since she can't stand long), back pillows, ice packs, prescriptions,
etc; going into work remotely, and eventually in person, since so many
people depend on her.

The truth is undeniable: Marian makes it possible for me to be the moderator
of TekScopes, something I love to do.

3 days ago (and exactly 3 weeks after her surgery) she turned the corner.
She was sleeping through the night without pain, walking with only a cane,
eating the usual things, and going to work. For the next 6 weeks I will
still have to drive her everywhere. By now I have no problem feeding and
walking our five Golden Retrievers. They are still more than a little upset
they haven't been able to snuggle with her in bed. Long ago we bought a
California king bed so 300+ pounds of dogs could all fit in the bed at the
same time. She hinted today that she may let one of them sleep in bed with
her tomorrow night. Knowing her, a day later she will feel sorry for the
other four and let all five join her.

Dennis Tillman W7pF




 

Hi Phil,
I definitely learned a lesson when she was recuperating. Now I do most of the things you do and I also walk the dogs 4 or 5 times each day starting at 4AM! in the morning. If I'm lucky they wait until 5AM to start making noise. Because I'm walking the dogs now she can sleep until 6:00 to 6:30AM when she normally wakes up.
Dennis

-----Original Message-----
From: TekScopes@groups.io [mailto:TekScopes@groups.io] On Behalf Of Phillip Potter
Sent: Saturday, May 01, 2021 12:40 PM
To: TekScopes@groups.io
Subject: Re: [TekScopes] My wife makes it possible for me to do this

Hi Dennis,
Glad to hear that she is on the mend.
After 42 years of marriage, I can say this...
My wife and I have taken to "thanking" each other for the things that the other does for us; like cooking, etc.
I have taken on cleaning up if she cooks and visa versa.
I am the sys op, driver, and geek. I take care of my own laundry, make the bed almost every day, and clean up after myself, while she takes care of the dog run (you know...).
It's a shared life where I look for ways to pitch in without being asked and we are still happily married.
Phil

On 4/3/2021 7:15 PM, Dennis Tillman W7pF wrote:
A little more than 3 weeks ago I had no idea my life was about to be
turned on its head.
Marian's hip replacement operation went extremely well as far as the
medical staff was concerned.
She was offered numerous pain medications in advance which was reassuring.
Unfortunately one by one we discovered she had adverse reactions to
each of them. There many sleepless nights spend in endless pain
followed by irrational emotional ups and downs during the days. I
spent the next 3 weeks doing everything she used to do around the
house in addition to taking care of her every need 24 / 7. Each day
ended with my being exhausted and falling into bed for a few hours before repeating the same thing again.

My aha moment came when, after 5 days of total exhaustion (me, not
her), she screamed at me "Now do you see how much I do around here so
you can sit in your room on the computer all day long?"
"It would be nice if you said thank you once in a while when I got
home from work!"

I thought better of opening my mouth at that moment to tell her all
the things I was doing:
All the cooking for both of us including food shopping; vacuuming,
laundry, dishes; feeding the dogs (they eat almost 50lbs of raw dog
food each month) twice a day, walking them 6 times per day; helping
her in and out of bed, sitting, standing, walking:, taking her almost
daily to and from appointments with physical and occupational
therapists, pain management specialists, doctors, etc; helping her
with her rehabilitation and her exercises; buying medical necessities
like canes, walkers, stools, shower seats (since she can't stand
long), back pillows, ice packs, prescriptions, etc; going into work
remotely, and eventually in person, since so many people depend on her.

The truth is undeniable: Marian makes it possible for me to be the
moderator of TekScopes, something I love to do.

3 days ago (and exactly 3 weeks after her surgery) she turned the corner.
She was sleeping through the night without pain, walking with only a
cane, eating the usual things, and going to work. For the next 6 weeks
I will still have to drive her everywhere. By now I have no problem
feeding and walking our five Golden Retrievers. They are still more
than a little upset they haven't been able to snuggle with her in bed.
Long ago we bought a California king bed so 300+ pounds of dogs could
all fit in the bed at the same time. She hinted today that she may let
one of them sleep in bed with her tomorrow night. Knowing her, a day
later she will feel sorry for the other four and let all five join her.

Dennis Tillman W7pF











--
Dennis Tillman W7pF
TekScopes Moderator


Bert Haskins
 

On 5/1/2021 3:39 PM, Phillip Potter wrote:
Hi Dennis,
Glad to hear that she is on the mend.
After 42 years of marriage, I can say this...
My wife and I have taken to "thanking" each other for the things that the other does for us; like cooking, etc.
I have taken on cleaning up if she cooks and visa versa.
I am the sys op, driver, and geek. I take care of my own laundry, make the bed almost every day, and clean up after myself, while she takes care of the dog run (you know...).
It's a shared life where I look for ways to pitch in without being asked and we are still happily married.
Phil

On 4/3/2021 7:15 PM, Dennis Tillman W7pF wrote:
A little more than 3 weeks ago I had no idea my life was about to be turned
on its head.
Marian's hip replacement operation went extremely well as far as the medical
staff was concerned.
She was offered numerous pain medications in advance which was reassuring.
Unfortunately one by one we discovered she had adverse reactions to each of
them. There many sleepless nights spend in endless pain followed by
irrational emotional ups and downs during the days. I spent the next 3 weeks
doing everything she used to do around the house in addition to taking care
of her every need 24 / 7. Each day ended with my being exhausted and falling
into bed for a few hours before repeating the same thing again.

My aha moment came when, after 5 days of total exhaustion (me, not her), she
screamed at me
"Now do you see how much I do around here so you can sit in your room on the
computer all day long?"
"It would be nice if you said thank you once in a while when I got home from
work!"

I thought better of opening my mouth at that moment to tell her all the
things I was doing:
All the cooking for both of us including food shopping; vacuuming, laundry,
dishes; feeding the dogs (they eat almost 50lbs of raw dog food each month)
twice a day, walking them 6 times per day; helping her in and out of bed,
sitting, standing, walking:, taking her almost daily to and from
appointments with physical and occupational therapists, pain management
specialists, doctors, etc; helping her with her rehabilitation and her
exercises; buying medical necessities like canes, walkers, stools, shower
seats (since she can't stand long), back pillows, ice packs, prescriptions,
etc; going into work remotely, and eventually in person,  since so many
people depend on her.

The truth is undeniable: Marian makes it possible for me to be the moderator
of TekScopes, something I love to do.

3 days ago (and exactly 3 weeks after her surgery) she turned the corner.
She was sleeping through the night without pain, walking with only a cane,
eating the usual things, and going to work. For the next 6 weeks I will
still have to drive her everywhere. By now I have no problem feeding and
walking our five Golden Retrievers. They are still more than a little upset
they haven't been able to snuggle with her in bed. Long ago we bought a
California king bed so 300+ pounds of dogs could all fit in the bed at the
same time. She hinted today that she may let one of them sleep in bed with
her tomorrow night.  Knowing her, a day later she will feel sorry for the
other four and let all five join her.

Dennis Tillman W7pF
I am now in a day to day nightmare because of my wife's hip replacement problems.

She had it done about seven years ago and it has now popped out twice in the last three weeks.

The EMT people have a button on the dash that takes them to my address.

The hospitals are in a Covid lock down so that too adds to the problems.

My wonderful kids have been taking turns flying in to help.


One year from this August we will hit the big 60!.

Needless to say I don't have a lot of time to play with my many, many toys.


Do we have any list members that are anywhere near West Michigan?

I have a lot of Tek stuff that could use a new home.


- Bert









nonIonizing EMF
 

On Sat, May 1, 2021 at 07:55 PM, Bert Haskins wrote:


Do we have any list members that are anywhere near West Michigan?
Hi Bert,

Hope the root cause of your wife's issue is identified and she heals up.

I'm in West Michigan and other than the winter season growing seemingly shorter and therefore reducing my time on amateur radio, electronics and RF engineering projects, I have a home for them and would like to have a complete test equipment lab capable of performing in house calibrations and qualifications some day.

Kind Regards,

James