ADHD Partner with Gina Pera

Please read thoroughly—before you apply— to learn about the group's purpose and how to complete your application.

After you make the request to join this group, you will receive an auto-send file asking for more information.

For example, has your partner already been diagnosed, what are your chief challenges and questions, your ages, etc. These details serve three purposes:

1. Help other members respond to you.
2. Help you start to focus on identifying your specific challenges and focus on problem-solving
3. Let other group members know your challenges might be similar to theirs (validation)

What is ADHD Partner?

To be clear: This is not a couple's group

How Does the Group Work?

The group works on your own time—send an e-mail and go about your business; come back later to read responses. And of course, when you can, support and respond to others.

Who Leads ADHD Partner?

ADHD educator and author Gina Pera founded the group in 2004.  

Several longtime group members have stepped up to help with the moderating.  And we are so grateful.

Is there a membership fee?

I've never charged a fee for this group. Some people can truly afford nothing. Others can afford more. 

Each month, the group receives a "suggested donation" request. Thank you for acknowledging this rare and long-running source of support with whatever you can afford—no amount too small.

What is the Group Purpose?

ADHD is a highly variable condition, and it often has "traveling companions" (e.g. depression, bipolar disorder, etc.) that add more complexity.  Most adults who have it are not diagnosed.

Many mental-health professionals remain unfamiliar with Adult ADHD, it's treatment strategies, and the potential effects on loved ones. This can be especially true for couple (or marital) therapists.

We work to fill the gaps, to acknowledge the particular effect on the partners (and, in some cases, the parents of adults with ADHD), and to help you learn how to "slow your ADHD Roller Coaster" and take care of yourself.

In fact, the need for a solid couple therapy model was so strong I devoted four solid years to establishing one. With my co-author, Arthur L. Robin, PhD, we created a flexible model that merges the evidence of what works for couple therapy and for Adult ADHD treatment. It's called Adult ADHD-Focused Couple Therapy: Clinical Interventions (Routledge, 2016).

What are the Expectations for Members?

Please understand that this group cannot provide you with a foundational education about ADHD.

We expect that members be pro-active in learning about ADHD from reliable sources.  Support and validation is invaluable but self-education is critical.


No marketing or sharing of sales or for-profit sites, please.  Doing so will mean removal from the group.

What About Privacy?

I encourage pseudonyms—so you don't subconsciously "self-censor"—but the choice is absolutely yours. 

What's said in the group stays in the group. Please do not forward or share information outside the group.

If you do not want your name to show in your e-mails to the group, please apply with an e-mail address that does not show your name!  

Attempting this after the fact will require more work on your part.

Who is Gina Pera?

I am an internationally recognized Adult ADHD expert
, especially as it can affect relationships.
My 2008 book, Is It You, Me, or Adult A.D.D.?, was the first to detail the potential impact of ADHD on the adults themselves and their partners—and to explain evidence-based treatment strategies. Also the first book to explain in-depth the complexity of "denial."

We Look Forward to Welcoming You!

Thank you for your interest in ADHD Partner (formerly at Yahoogroups). 

Gina Pera and moderators

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